Blog of Sara Jakša

BDSM Test Results

Well, I have recently done a BDSM test. How did I come in this situation? Because lets us admit, having an asexual taking a test that was clearly aimed at the sexual kinks is a bit unusual. Not that BDSM is sexual only, but the questions certainly implied this.

Not that I am not familiar with the concepts at least implicitly. While fanfiction are not the best examples of the well written stories, the BDSM kink is used in them quite a lot. And most writers at least do a quick google search, if they are not more familiar with it.

So I am aware of quite a couple of these kinks. Of the top and bottoms. Of the submissive and dominants and switches. Of the whole age related games, from kid to daddy kinks, to the bounding and so on. I am not sure if the fanfiction writers get their ideas from the community, or they just write what is interesting to them. But there is overlap.

You can find my results on http://bdsmtest.org/r/6342397.

So let us discuss my results. The Switch part is apparently the strongest part of my personality. These are the people that can be in both the dominant and the submissive role. Which is not that surprising to me. I mean, when I am in some social situations, I would prefer if somebody else would just make all decisions and I would just go along without thinking. The Toastmasters hill climbing were a pretty good example of that, if not for some of them then suddenly trying to make everything equal.

For the record, I actually think that the decision making, where everybody has the same say is one of the most inefficient way of making the decisions. Because either the people vote, and nobody is satisfied, or things are done by consensus, which takes too fucking long.

Well, as you cam probably imagine, when I am too frustrated with the current situation, then I take charge. Which is when I do hope that nobody stands in my way. I guess my 'super hard' (they were not that hard) table topics were also a good example of this. I liked making people do things that they did were not sure they wanted to do, because I knew it will help them in the future.

I guess the Switch part does kind of makes sense. In the light of that, what does not make that much sense in my high score in Vanilla. Though, because it was such a sexually oriented test, I guess it makes sense. I don't have any interest in quite a lot of kinks. I mean, there are multiple kinks, where I have very low interest in both sides: like sadist/masochists, degradation, owner/pet, bondage, any kind of age play and master/slave.

It is also interesting that there are a mixture of roles through the whole spectrum. Though the spider diagrams, if I read them correctly, show that I am more strongly leaning into the dominant kind of role. But not that much. I have both dominant roles toward the top, like hunter and dominant, and the submissive roles, like brat and submissive.

As I mentioned before, I got interested in the concept, because I don't think that consensus is the best way to reach decisions, so I figured that some of these concepts would be helpful. I had all these plans of what kind of things I could try, if I could just figure out my tendency. Because I seems to be on the both part of the spectrum.

On the one hand, all my plans got ruined, and now I am not sure how to use this information. On the other hand, I guess I should just accept this. I mean, I can be like all these annoying ambiverts. Sometimes I am like this, but then I am the opposite. Now I guess I can say that about these roles and be just as annoying. :)

Now I should go and find out, if there is a way I could leverage this to improve my communications skills.